You may be asking yourself, “will this work” or “is anger management therapy effective?” The answer to these questions is always any movement forward toward making your life better is a huge success. Our counselors use evidence-based techniques and offer tools and coping skills that are shown to dramatically decrease the maladaptive behavior a person might be experiencing. This is a scientifically proven way to help change the way people cope with situations. Just like you would be going to a doctor and they prescribe a treatment to alleviate negative symptoms – the same is true for negative behavioral symptoms. In other words, the brain is elastic and the wiring is not fixed. We believe in the proven “growth mindset” which teaches people are able to take small steps to make BIG changes.
Our Anger Management Missoula therapy sessions often see people who fall into the category of “impotent rage”. This is when a person feels helpless because they cannot do anything to solve a particular problem. And isn’t life like this sometimes? We all run into a brick wall at some point in our life. But some people feel so helpless that this triggers a state of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. People who suffer from anger management will choose one of these options. It’s not just “fight”. Many people will feel so angry and thus, so helpless, that they will escape into drugs and alcohol. Or, maybe it’s more simple, and they will get in their car and just get up and leave town!
Freeze is when the person with anger management just locks up and literally freezes, powerless. Fawn is like it sounds – a baby deer. That is, when a baby deer meets a predator, sometimes it will seduce its prey so it doesn’t get eaten alive. Likewise, when some of us meet a human-like predator, in the form of a narcissist, and we face a situation where we cannot win, it is easier to try and win the narcissist over rather than to face the conflict head-on. With some narcissists you can never win, and so it is best to exit stage left.