By learning to process what happens to us, with a Missoula therapist, and what happened to us, in the past, we rewire how we think. We rewire years of habitual patterns. It’s courageous, and it takes work – but it is worth it to find relief from the pain. To know that it is never too late to start again. To start fresh. Our trained therapists help people do this every day. They understand that, just like a botanist who looks at a tree, we need to look at the original seed that made that tree. And what condition was the soil that the tree grew up in? Did the tree get all the nutrients it needed? Was it mostly sunny days for the tree? Or was it raining all the time? This is all part of the process. Therapy is processing.
A lot of what happened to us began in our original home. For example, a person who is rejected and abandoned as a child may never have gotten over those emotional scars. A child cannot process such trauma and such ache because they are unable to articulate at such a young age everything that happened to them. And so, this person, as an adult, then walks around with this ache. And they don’t know why. It’s just hard to get through the day. It often takes therapy to nurture and heal the deep and subconscious wounds that the person is not aware of.
Add to this that it is often impossible to have memories of what happened because those memories are emotional. It’s a feeling. We don’t always realize what happened to us in our lives to make us act the way we do. So we walk around being triggered throughout our lives. It can be something we see or hear. Even a smell can do this – and we suddenly become upset, and we don’t know why. But that exact smell was there when we were kids when the trauma initially occurred. With therapy, we discover what has happened in the past shapes who we are. But it does not equal or result in who we will become.