Kerry Heffelfinger, Author at Sunflower Counseling

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So far Kerry Heffelfinger has created 94 blog entries.

Falling in Love With a Chatbot: Is It Healthy to Love an AI — and What Does It Mean for the Human Heart?

In late 2025, a woman in western Japan put on

By Kerry Heffelfinger|2026-06-19T07:44:01-07:00June 19th, 2026|Loneliness, Mental Health, Montana Counseling, Relationships, Technology and Wellbeing|

My Spouse Refuses Couples Therapy — Now What? A Montana Therapist’s Guide

You have reached the point where you know your relationship

By Kerry Heffelfinger|2026-06-18T09:18:49-07:00June 18th, 2026|Couples Therapy, Marriage, Mental Health, Montana Counseling, Relationships|

Understanding Grief: How Loss Lives in the Body, and How We Learn to Live Again

Grief is the price we pay for having loved. It

By Kerry Heffelfinger|2026-06-13T20:12:50-07:00June 13th, 2026|Grief and Loss, Life Transitions, Mental Health, Montana Counseling, Trauma|

Why Are We So Lonely? Smartphones, Dopamine, and Finding Real Connection in Montana

Here is a strange feature of modern life: we are

By Kerry Heffelfinger|2026-06-09T19:03:36-07:00June 9th, 2026|Loneliness, Men's Mental Health, Mental Health, Montana Counseling, Relationships|

How to Tell If You’re in a Relationship With a Narcissist (And How to Heal)

If you have found yourself googling this at the end

By Kerry Heffelfinger|2026-06-05T11:27:32-07:00June 5th, 2026|Anxiety, Emotional Abuse, Mental Health, Montana Counseling, Relationships, Trauma|

Signs Your Teen Needs Therapy (Not Just Teen Stuff): A Montana Parent’s Guide

If you have found yourself lying awake at night wondering

By Kerry Heffelfinger|2026-06-03T09:28:54-07:00June 3rd, 2026|Anxiety, Child, Teen, and Family, Depression, Mental Health, Montana Counseling, Parenting|

The Divorced Dad Aesthetic Is Trending — But What About Divorced Dad Mental Health?

Scroll through Pinterest or TikTok lately and you might have

By Kerry Heffelfinger|2026-06-02T07:28:12-07:00June 2nd, 2026|Anxiety, Depression, Life Transitions, Men's Mental Health, Mental Health, Montana Counseling|

How Do I Find an LGBTQ+ Affirming Therapist in Montana? (And What “Affirming” Actually Means)

If you are LGBTQ+ and live in Montana, finding a

By Kerry Heffelfinger|2026-06-01T09:14:05-07:00June 1st, 2026|Affirming Therapy, Anxiety, Butte, Couples Counseling, Depression, Finding a Therapist, Identity, Kalispell, LGBTQ+ Mental Health, Mental Health in Montana, Missoula, Online Therapy, Relationships, Trauma|

Why Burnout Is Not Just Being Tired — And When It Needs Professional Help

You are tired. But this is not the kind of

By Kerry Heffelfinger|2026-05-30T14:59:11-07:00May 30th, 2026|Addiction, Anxiety, Anxiety & Stress, Counseling, Counselor, Depression, Depression & Mood, Health, Mental Health, Mental Health Resources, Montana Mental Health, Motivation, Parenting, Psychology, Psychotherapist, Relationships, Relationships & Family, Self Esteem, Self-Care & Wellness, Stress, Therapist, Therapy, Therapy & Counseling 101|

The Psychology of Regret — Why We Torture Ourselves Over Roads Not Taken and How to Stop

Matt Damon turned down the lead role in Avatar. James

By Kerry Heffelfinger|2026-05-29T18:10:53-07:00May 29th, 2026|Addiction, Anxiety, Anxiety & Stress, Counseling, Counselor, Depression, Depression & Mood, Grief, Health, Mental Health, Mental Health Resources, Montana Mental Health, Motivation, Parenting, Philosophy, Psychology, Psychotherapist, Relationships, Relationships & Family, Self Esteem, Self-Care & Wellness, Stress, Therapist, Therapy, Therapy & Counseling 101|

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